Potty problems

Our attempts to do intensive toilet training on L this week foundered on her refusal to co-operate, specifically to sit on the potty. She has obviously not been reading the same book on toilet-training that we have. This is despite the fact that we have recently bought her a book on potties, a ‘feed and wet’ doll (to help her work out the rough anatomy of where things come out), and ‘The Story of the Little Mole who Knew it was None of his Business’ (http://www.amazon.co.uk/exec/obidos/ASIN/1856024407/qid=1117693727/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i1_xgl/026-8565937-5354816). (This is a story about animal poo, now I believe also a play (which I guess I will skip)). Whether this is the correct approach to training a bright toddler, but one completely lacking in common sense, we will have to see.


2 thoughts on “Potty problems

  1. Don’t stress too much about the potty thing. I know it’s a pain. People told me girls are easier to train than boys, which I found not to be so. My elder daughter only sat on the potty for the first time a week before she started nursery, which was just about the time of her third birthday. She simply refused to bend her knees and sit, and that was all there was to it. I left her with her aunt one day who was quite confident that a less familiar environment and a firm hand would produce results. She left her with the potty and went to the kitchen. A minute later my little angel appeared in the doorway, the potty flew across the room and said daughter turned her back and left with dignity, or as much dignity as one can muster with no knickers on. But the point is they all do learn in the end and it’s a tiny fragment of your life and theirs, though it can sometimes be easy to lose that perspective. Good luck.


  2. I’ve got to agree with the first commentor (commentator). It ain’t no big deal. We were lucky in that we were reminded early, by a reliable & friendly mother, that *all* children are eventually potty-trained. No normal child wears diapers forever; no normal adult needs them.

    Moreover there’s no demonstrable advantage to the *child* in doing this sooner rather than later. It may make a huge difference in _your_ (parental) life, whether in terms of doing laundry, paying for diapers or diaper service, or just (not) having to put up with s**t, but this has nothing directly to do with the child’s well-being. When s/he is ready, s/he will use the potty. Before then, try to “train” if you must for your own peace of mind, but don’t fret for the child’s sake.

    We deployed this philosophy with our son, a bright boy then (and now) who for years simply did not seem to be concerned about what he carried around with him, as it were. We used to joke that he would learn to read first, and we’d give him a book that explained toilet training, and *then* he’d get around to it. This didn’t quite happen, but it was a near thing. And he suffered no visible harm from it, except once in a while having to hear it mentioned by his aged parents.

    Of course, YMMV.


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